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Having a Quickie: The Ultimate Guide to Quick Sex
Ten minutes? Five minutes? Two minutes? How quickly can you fit in sex with your partner? The results may surprise you. Once you’ve mastered the art of quick sex, you can have a quickie whenever and however you want.
Read this guide to learn all about quickies, when and where to have them, and how to make the most of quick sex. Or, use the links below to jump ahead to a section of your choosing.
What Is a Quickie?
Life can be busy. Sometimes, when the mood strikes, there simply isn’t time for full-blown traditional sex. Whether you’ve got a time crunch on your hands or simply want to try something new, a quickie may be the perfect solution. Put simply, a quickie refers to quick sex, typically under 10 minutes. Let’s dive into a more detailed quickie definition below.
Quickie Meaning and Definition
As the name suggests, a quickie is any sex that’s done quickly. Quickies can mean different things for different couples, but generally, they share the following characteristics:
- They’re 10 minutes or less: Some couples can even get it done in just a few! Quickies are often spontaneous but can be planned by couples, too.
- There’s no foreplay: Quickies usually happen when a couple is already raring to go and ready to get to it.
- There’s minimal undressing: Undressing means re-dressing, and that requires time you simply may not have. Only the necessary garments are removed.
- They’re more physical than emotional: With the time crunch, the focus of quickies isn’t to connect, but to get the job done.
Why Quickies Can Be Exciting and Fun
There are a number of theories about why quickies are such fun. Some suggest that quickie sex satisfies our most primal instinct to get aroused and copulate quickly, as one might need to do in older times.1 Some may suggest that quickies don’t offer enough time for both parties to feel satisfied, but other studies have shown that the most satisfying sex that couples have lasts between 3 and 13 minutes.1
Quickie sex is also fun because it satisfies both our desire for spontaneity and our sexual drive. Even for couples who have been together forever, it’s always fun and exciting to introduce something new. Quickie sex may be a new frontier for couples that reinvigorates their sex life.
Of course, quickies offer all the other benefits of sex, too. These include the release of “feel good” hormones like dopamine and endorphins, increased connection with your partner, pain relief, better sleep, and so much more.
When to Have a Quickie
Interested in exploring the world of quickie sex? Because quickies are quick, they can fit into nearly any time slot when the mood strikes. Here are a few tips to get you started.
Best Times for a Quickie
The best thing about quickies is that the best time is anytime! Quickies exist to satisfy your needs whenever the mood strikes, meaning they’re often spontaneous in nature. However, quickies can also be planned by couples, where partners intentionally dress to make quickies easy to achieve, such as a woman wearing a skirt or front closing dress. As long as you have a spare few minutes and a bit of privacy, you have plenty of time for a quickie.
Turning Spontaneity Into Sexy Moments
Next time spontaneity strikes, it may be time for a quickie. Whether your partner catches your eye and suddenly turns you on, they pop into your head and you just can’t get them off your mind, or the mood simply strikes, a quickie may be the solution.
There’s only one real rule when it comes to quickies: consent is everything. You and your partner must both consent to quick sex before it happens. The rest is up to you!
Where to Have a Quickie
When it comes to quickies, the world is your oyster—within reason. Of course, we recommend keeping quickies to private spaces. Otherwise, quick sex may risk getting you in trouble.
Quickie in the Bathroom: Tips and Tricks
The bathroom is a go-to place for quick sex. Maybe you’ve just stepped out of the shower and the mood has struck, or maybe it’s the only place to go for a private moment. No matter the reason, here are our tips for a quickie in the bathroom:
- Get wet and wild: Kill two birds with one stone by having a quickie in the shower. It can be slippery, so it’s best to hold onto something stable for safety.
- Use the toilet as your throne: With the lid closed, the toilet can be a perfect seat for a range of quick sex. Get creative!
- Hop on the sink: It’s a great height for getting the job done. Just remember to make sure it’s dry first!
Kitchen Quickies: Making the Most of the Space
When the mood strikes and you’ve rushed home, sometimes sex can’t wait till you reach the bedroom. Kitchen quickies are the perfect solution for quick sex as soon as you walk in the door.
- Take advantage of the counter space: It’s the perfect height for a range of different positions.
- Keep an eye out for danger: Between the knives and the flames, your kitchen may be the most dangerous spot in your home. Make sure your kitchen quickie isn’t putting you at risk.
Other Creative Spots for Quick Sex
Bathrooms and kitchens aren’t the only places quickies can happen. Try out these other creative spots for quick sex:
- The car: It’s a classic for a reason! Hit the back seat or get knee-deep in the passenger seat… you know the rest.
- A private office: Emphasis on private. Much can happen underneath a desk.
- The backyard: Why not try the great outdoors? A secluded backyard can make the perfect place for a quickie.
How to Make the Most of a Quickie
Just because a quickie is fast doesn’t mean it can’t be satisfying. Use these tips to get the most out of your quickie.
Setting the Mood Fast
When time is limited, there isn’t a lot of room for setting the mood. Instead, get creative.
- Dirty talk: Ramp up the intensity with a bit of dirty talk, if that’s what your partner is into. A few flirty texts before the quickie or some sexy compliments throughout can do the trick.
- Make a playlist ahead of time: It’s great to have one on deck. All you need to do in the moment is simply hit play.
- Play a fantasy: Let your mind wander and play a fantasy in your head to get your juices flowing.
Communication and Consent in Quickies
Remember: there’s always time for consent! Both partners must be consenting to sex before any occurs, quick or not. Check in a few times throughout, not just for consent but also to make sure your partner is comfortable, the sex feels good, and more.
You may also want to have a check-in after your first quickie. Did you both like it? How could it be better next time? These conversations won’t just help you have better sex but can bring you closer, too.
Quickie Tips and Techniques
Want to make the most out of your quickie? Here are our favorite tips and tricks.
Positions That Work Best for Quickies
Standing positions are the go-to for quickie sex for a number of reasons. Depending on the space, there may simply not be enough room for anything else. They also rumple clothes the least and require very few to be removed. Or, if you stumble back home, head straight to the stairs. With both of you facing the stairs and the receiver one step above, you can easily penetrate at an upward angle while grabbing the handrail or banisters for support.
Rear entry can be perfect for quickie sex, especially with the receiver leaning over a counter, table, couch, or chair. Some positions may also allow for the receiver to be seated and the giver to stand.
Don’t forget oral sex, too! One seated and one standing or one seated and one kneeling can allow you to get the job done.
Lubrication Is Key
Because there isn’t as much time for foreplay during quickie sex, lubrication can be an issue. We recommend using lube to help minimize friction and improve sensation. Plus, many personal lubricants come with added bonuses like warming sensations to make your quickie even better.
References
- "Why Quickie Sex Is the Best Kind of Sex." YourTango, 2016, www.yourtango.com/2016297074/why-quickie-sex-is-the-best-kind-sex.
